Showing posts with label Social Media/Networking. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Social Media/Networking. Show all posts

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Try Courting Your Career

5 Rules to Follow to Land That Dream Job…Or Special Someone (Whichever Comes First.)

Graduation from college is a time of celebration. It can also be a time of absolute terror, especially for those who still have to face the Big Bad Wolf that is the job market. Nothing is more humiliating or self-defeating than being turned away from a job opportunity that you had your whole heart set on. Nothing that is except for being turned away from a potential love interest that you had your whole heart set on…

Being rejected from a job makes you feel just as low as being rejected from a date. How many “break up” emails have you received from HR that read, “We’ve gone with another candidate,” or in other words, “We have feelings for someone else”? How many phone calls with potential employers have ended with “though you have impressive credentials, we feel that you do not fit our criteria at this time,” or in other words, “it’s not you, it’s me”?

It is not foolish or outlandish to compare the potential job pool to the potential dating pool. People are accepted or rejected in both situations based on very similar criteria. If you have scoured your brain for reasons as to why you are still “economically single” and still come up empty handed, maybe it is the way in which you COURT your potential job that needs an up in its game.

Graduation from college is a time of celebration. It can also be a time of absolute terror.
The following rules have been developed (based on my own personal experiences and advice given to me from others) to help you achieve just that. Hopefully if you start seeing courting a potential job in the same light as you see courting a potential date and vice versa, the intimidation of one may lessen that of the other.

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Rule #5: Accept that they might “not be that into you,” and be able to remain “just friends.”


There comes a point in any courtship where the possibility that the other person might “not be that into you” becomes apparent. Sometimes this can catch a person completely off guard, but if you have been reading the signs it most likely will not come as much of a shock. There are times when the chemistry is just not there. Being rejected more times than you will be accepted before you find that perfect fit is a hard fact to accept. This is the time when a person’s character is truly tested. The following are some helpful tips to help you handle this unfortunate situation with grace:

·      Keep professional in your correspondence. Much like you can tell if you were accepted into the college you applied for by the size of the envelope, you can usually tell whether you got the job (or a second date) by the form of communication the other person uses to contact you back. A phone call is almost a sure sign that you’ve “been hired” while an email is most likely the dreaded “let’s just be friends.” Whether you get turned down by phone or by email, stay positive and professional in your communication.
·      Do not respond immediately to bad news. Most likely you will be overly emotional, especially if it was a job or second date that you really wanted. Take a moment to cool off and send a response once you have a clear head. Also, don't send the first draft of the response that you write. Keep taking breaks from your response and come back and edit as you become more level headed.
·      When you do respond back, keep emotions on a neutral level. Respond back in a way that you would for any professional situation. Avoid the taboos of using highly emotional words, punctuation, and capitalization.
·     Remember, once something is written down, ESPECIALLY in email form, it is there FOREVER and cannot be taken back or erased. Now days in the age of Facebook and Twitter, people forget to refrain from speaking exactly what they are feeling and tend to respond to bad news in an overly emotional and unprofessional way, and this spills over into their professional life. This is NOT a good reflection on you. I advise to start practicing restraint while using Facebook or other Social Networking platforms to get in the habit of proper behavior both on and off line for any situation.
·      DO give a response. No response is sometimes worse than an emotional one. It gives across the perception of bitterness, which doesn’t look good on anyone.

Just because things didn’t work out the way you wanted this time around does not mean that it is the end of the road. Being rejected is the perfect opportunity to turn the negative into the positive. Just because you were not a right fit at that exact moment in time does not mean that there isn't a great possibility that you WILL be in the future.

Be the first to extend the hand of “friendship” if the other person has not already. This will show your true class and maturity and will leave a positive image of you in the other person’s mind. Doing so will help you gain a valuable contact.

Gaining this new contact is just the beginning. Make sure that you put in the effort to retain them as well. A good way of doing this is by staying in contact with them through emails that you send during important stages or transitions in your professional career. This will keep you on their radar for when an opportunity arises that they may be able to extend to you. Holidays are also a very nice opportunity to stay in touch.

Original Design by Dustin Enrique Larsen
Original Design by Dustin Enrique Larsen
 
There they are. My 5 rules to help land that dream job or special someone by using courtship as your guide. I hope that what I have shared is helpful for when you take on those most nerve wracking of endeavors. Click HERE to return back to "Try Courting Your Career" Main Page.    

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Rule #1: Get to Know Them BEFORE You Meet Them.


Potential employers (and first dates) are almost always impressed if you come to the first meeting already knowing a little bit about them. It shows initiative and that you care. When it comes to a job, reviewing the company’s website, Facebook, or Twitter page are all excellent resources to get to know that company on a deeper level.

(NOTE: In the case of getting to know a potential date, asking a close mutual friend for information will suffice. Getting into the Facebook/Twitter realm strays a little too close to the creepy/stalker side. Yes, the temptation is strong and the resources are there, but going that route before actually meeting the person is just plain creepy. No discussion needed. Also, before divulging any information about the other person, state that you heard it from the mutual friend first. Again, creepiness diverted.)

Getting to know the company/person beforehand also helps you eliminate any candidates that won’t be a good fit for you, well before you have become too emotionally involved. It saves you a lot of time and emotion.

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Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Stand By “V”


And the plot thickens. As I was reading this morning’s Daily Evergreen, (well actually I was on my way to the Horoscopes in the back because who are we kidding? Those are really the only content with substance worth reading in that newspaper,) I came across a headline that caught my eye. Hacker domain address leads to Floyd. I couldn’t help but snicker, quickly showing my father the headline. His expression was identical to mine. It was like some old Robin Hood story, in which the “hero” fighting for the masses continues to outsmart “the man” and continually leaving him with egg on his face.

Let me back track a bit. On November 5th, 2010, students at WSU were unexpectedly surprised with an unscheduled special guest appearance of “V” from V for Vendetta welcoming them to their class. A very clever and skillful student had “hacked” into the WSU Media Services and began to play a YouTube video of their creation. As the students were being entertained (and if they weren’t they should have been, how often does something of this nature happen?) the professors were left helpless as they tried to regain control of the projector system. I can only imagine how that scene could have looked, probably something out of a Three Stooges silent film. 3:34 later, students and professors were allowed to go about their normal routine, well as normal as it can get after you have just experienced George Orwell’s 1984.

As you can expect the story of the “masked man” spread throughout the town and the World Wide Web, thanks in part to “V’s” link to his own website on his YouTube page, which in turn had a link to his Facebook page. Views of the video skyrocketed to within the thousands and fans on Facebook rose to almost 900, all in a matter of 24 hours. I’ll admit I was one of the curious ones that followed the breadcrumbs. I have recently developed a tremendous interest in social media and social networking as a means of quickly sharing information with the cyber and physical world. I would have to credit this hunger for this topic to David Meerman Scott, who has written multiple books on Social Marketing and PR, of which I have plowed through like a starved cow in overly green pastures.

What this student did I found truly impressive, but I was left slightly disappointed because such an amazingly talented individual did not fully use the power that social media and networking had given him. He simply left his endeavor at just the YouTube video, blog, and Facebook page, allowing it to whither into just an escapade that could be chalked up to nothing more than just a college prank. His explanation for this abandonment was that the felt the students no longer needed him; it was their turn to speak up and turn away from “apathy.” Maybe that is true, or maybe this kid is scared almost to the point of messing his pants at the thought of getting caught, which I don’t blame him. Either way, he did a pretty darn good job of covering up his tracks, which leads me full circle back to an explanation of my introduction.

Countless hours and effort have been wasted on the search for the identity of “V.” And what do these crusaders have to show after all this work? The hacker (or at least the hacker’s address and phone number) was found to be none other than Elson S. Floyd, the president of Washington State University himself! Wah, wah, wah. Talk about a “pay no attention to the man behind the curtain” scenario! Ah, if only this were the case, what a Scooby-Doo episode it would be! But truth of the matter is this was just another clever tactic used by “V” to crack another egg on the establishment’s face. Turned out the “yolk” was on them (pardon the pun.)

Now that this story is unfortunately starting to become a cold case, I will return to what really awed me about the whole situation; though I do have my own problems with the university, but let’s not go there given it would make this blog 100 pages longer. “V” only got a small taste, just a lick, of what social media and networking could have done for him. If he had continued his efforts without the fear of being reprimanded and had continued to engage with students, the media, and whomever else in real time, think of how BIG this whole incident could have turned into. It could have been a nationwide movement; because Lord knows that other universities are going through the same things due to this current economy. All he had to do was add Twitter to the mix with a dash of strategically thought out hash marks, and he could have developed an army for justice behind him that spanned the globe! Okay, I may be becoming a little over dramatic, but the power of real-time social media and networking is remarkable. There is no denying that my eyes have been opened to that. Thanks Mr. Scott!

For recent coverage of this incident, visit:

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To view "V's" Facebook Page:

To see what a GENIUS Mr. David Meerman Scott is, visit his blog at: