Rule #4: If You Are Interested, LET THEM KNOW!

Hopefully if you have followed the rules and have reached this point, you have an idea of whether you are interested in taking the “relationship” to the next level. There is no way of knowing for sure whether the other party is on the same page, but if you are interested, MAKE SURE THAT THEY KNOW! Letting your feelings be known is the one thing that you are completely sure about and have complete control over. 

The universal sign for showing that you are interested and want to remain in contact with the other person is the leaving of the number. In the sense of interviewing for a job, leave your business card. If you don’t have one, make one. It is a lot easier and cheaper than you may think to have professional looking business cards. Having your contact information strictly on your resume or application just isn’t enough. Handing over a business card brings direct attention to your information and gives a crystal clear signal to the other person that you would like them to use it. They will also be extremely impressed with the fact that you have your own business card, and will most likely offer you theirs as well. A VERY good sign and will include information necessary for what I am about to suggest next.

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Once you leave the meeting, the task of letting them know you are interested is not finished. As soon as you get home, HANDWRITE a thank you card, preferably one of your creation, which matches your business card that you will send the old fashioned way in the mail. Again, HANDWRITE the thank you card. I cannot emphasize enough the impact of a HAND WRITTEN card on the other person. It shows that you are truly interested in continuing the “relationship” and are dedicated enough to take the time to put pen to paper. Keep it short, sweet, and sincere.

(NOTE: In the case of a date, the thank you card can be substituted for a follow up phone call, in which case make sure to ask when would be the best time to do so when numbers are exchanged. If you want to send an actual card, by all means go ahead and do so! You never know, it might catch them off guard in a good way!)

Original Design by Dustin Enrique Larsen

After you have sent your HAND WRITTEN thank you card, don’t feel like you are off the hook quite yet. If you have not received a response the week following you sending the thank you card (which makes it two weeks following your in person meeting,) I feel that it is appropriate to send a follow up email. Keep it short, sweet and to the point making sure to thank them once again for meeting with you. You do not want to come across as too aggressive, but you also do not want to risk falling through the cracks in case something out of your control has happened (card lost in the mail, HR person has become swamped, etc.) Usually you will get a response to your email which will include the yeah or nay outcome of your meeting.

(NOTE: The follow up email is NOT necessary and probably SHOULDN’T be used if it is a date you are trying to score. If you do not have an idea of where it is going by now, you should probably prepare to start to move on.)

Hopefully the outcome is the one you were hoping for, but in the case that it is not, see Rule #5.


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